Topics · Boundaries · 7 episodes, 2 guests

Is it selfish to set boundaries?

No. Clear boundaries are necessary for real connection, and they let me offer my best self to the people around me. I no longer apologize for what I need. In my 50s I learned that every no makes room for a bigger, bolder yes. Try this: ask yourself what boundary would most support your well-being right now.

Every one of us is encoded to experience pleasure. It is our birthright.Gabriella, host of Pleasure in the Pause, on Episode 1

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Article · 6 min read

Is It Selfish to Care About My Own Pleasure?

No, it isn't. Caring about your own pleasure isn't selfish, and the people around you benefit when you do. Here's why that's true, and where to start.

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More questions about boundaries

Is it selfish to care about my own pleasure?

As women, we often receive messages that prioritizing our own pleasure is selfish or indulgent. That message is wrong. When you make space for what genuinely feels good, you have more to give the people around you, not less. Pleasure works like a resource you draw from. Depleting it depletes everyone who depends on you. Read the article

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